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Announcements + NF + queers
2018-01-30 :: dave

Today, I’ve got an essay up at Lithub about the choices I made to become queer, an essayist, and an artist. Its title was taken from a panel at last year’s NonfictioNow Conference, which got me thinking about how these three words were related in my own life. Thanks to editors Tim Denevi and Emily […]

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Books + queers
2018-01-29 :: dave

It’s unconscionable that it’s taken me so long to discover Wayne Koestenbaum’s essays: he’s writing in the precise mix of intellectual, critical, and personal that I aim for. A role model. I read his My 1980’s and Other Essays, a kind of omnibus of recent shorter pieces, earlier in the month, and it made me […]

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Books + queers
2018-01-26 :: dave

A new favorite. I didn’t know that all my life I’d been looking for a fable about queers loving and working together as they prepare to destroy the patriarchy. Or “the men” in Mitchell’s parlance: The first revolutions destroyed the great cultures of the women. Once the men triumphed, all that was other from them […]

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Books + queers
2018-01-20 :: dave

Abandoned halfway through. This book is Not For Me. I think I failed to take its title literally enough: this is a how-to book for folks between their quarter- and mid-life crises. If All Advice Is Autobiographical, this book is a memoir, but one directed at a You I couldn’t quite step into: Breakups make […]

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Books + NF + queers
2018-01-16 :: dave

A graphic memoir about a young girl in the world of mid-level competitive figure skating, who comes out as queer and comes to realize she has to leave skating behind. What’s beautiful about it are Walden’s colors and her use of rhythm and pacing, how she moves from small and tight panels to wider and […]

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Books + queers
2018-01-11 :: dave

you either love the world or you live in it I love the sad wisdom in these lines, which is a sad wisdom that runs throughout this collection. I’d only before heard Sax’s poems, at two readings here in San Francisco, where he spent a number of years. He’s from the performance poetry school: some […]

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Books + queers
2018-01-09 :: dave

Because I tend to be a late adopter of certain trends and habits. Because even as late as 2017 the message I hear in the conversations about books, and stories in particular, is that the most important stories (and the stories most valued) out there are about A Man and A Woman. Because if not […]

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Obvious Things + queers
2017-06-30 :: dave

Today Angela Merkel voted against same-sex marriage, and I laughed and was reminded of the time when Nancy Reagan died, and Hillary Clinton went on TV and reminded us all that the Reagans did so much to “start a national conversation” about AIDS. But this post isn’t about how politicians beloved by people on the […]

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queers
2017-04-18 :: dave

I came out to my parents just months after I came out to myself, and on the whole it went as well as I could expect. We hugged at the end of the conversation, etc. One of the few things my dad said to me was that he was worried that my life was going […]

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queers
2017-02-28 :: dave

This is a post inspired in part by Frank Bruni’s “Two Consonants Walk Into a Bar” from Sunday’s NY Times, which itself cites John Aravosis’s “How did the T get in LGBT?” which I’ll refer to below. I. In 2007, I was freshly out and Congress was considering whether to add gender identity to the […]

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queers
2016-11-14 :: dave

I. This week I’ve thought about my country the way I’ve imagined people with abusive or deadbeat parents think about their abusive or deadbeat parents. (I mostly know such people from bad movies.) No matter who they are or what they do, the parent will continually let them down. The parent has too long a […]

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Books + queers
2016-09-14 :: dave

I. Just before the fall semester hit me like a wave I’d underestimated, I finished Randall Kenan’s[1] A Visitation of Spirits, and I’ve been wanting to write some things about it. Much of the book follows Horace Cross, a teenager from rural North Carolina, throughout a night where a demon leads him through the sites […]

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queers
2016-01-04 :: dave

From Taffy Brodesser-Akner’s profile of some hipster megachurch pastor that NYC-types and NBAers are into: And here I have to say out loud how much I like Carl. I say it here because I still felt it after this conversation. I like him even though he is ideologically opposed to things that are important to […]

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queers + TV
2015-05-12 :: dave

N & I finally caught the Bruce Jenner interview everyone tweeted about a couple weeks ago. It was not hard-hitting. At one point early on, Diane Sawyer asked him point blank, “Are you a woman?” Jenner said he was, “for all intents and purposes.” He said that despite the male body he’s lived in for […]

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Books + Comedy + Endorsements + queers
2014-12-05 :: dave

Reading O’Donnell’s Find Me (2002) for research. Here’s a bit from the book’s brief Acknowledgements: Anne Lamott, Nora Ephron, Dave Eggers, Fannie Flagg, Pat Conroy, and Anne Rice for writing as they do. Take that, McSweeney’s generation.

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queers
2014-01-17 :: dave

No. He was married to a woman named Sandra Martin up until his death yesterday. Sorry to disappoint. R.I.P., Dave.

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queers
2012-11-26 :: dave

I rank myself among them. Last week I tweeted this: A grown-ass man ≠ half as grown as a grown man is. Or just a man. A man can say w/out weirdness “I’m a man.” Everyone stop saying grown-ass. It’s been something I can’t stop noticing, the usage a grown-ass man, mostly on TV but […]

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Comedy + queers
2012-06-30 :: dave
Gay

This is a joke from Demetri Martin’s album These are Jokes: A dreamcatcher works. If your dream is to be gay. Which is just a syntactically humorous way to say that dreamcatchers are gay. It’s what this blog post’s going to be about, how dreamcatchers are gay. That I’m satisfied by Martin’s joke’s jokework without […]

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queers
2011-12-19 :: dave

The comments following some random blogger’s list of gay people in Hollywood gets heated:

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queers
2011-08-13 :: dave

I’m torn about my stance on the latest anti-marriage-rights GOP man to solicit sex from a younger man. His name is Phillip Hinkle, and he’s a state senator in Indiana, and, according to the Fort Wayne Journal Gazette, he “voted this year in favor of a state constitutional amendment defining marriage as being only between […]

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